Ahh what a week! What a whirlwind! Successes and Setbacks, but we gladly take them all. And in stride. There is no other way. As Dori so wisely suggested, Just Keep Swimming. And we Do. And so does Ayden. Even when the tide keeps pushing him back to shore....and then suddenly he'll duck under the water and pop up 10 yards out and you are like, woah!!!! Or in our case, we smile. We knew ya could. Never doubted you for a moment. It's the other people who can't seem to be patient. And, so we swim.
Ayden's weeks often flow like this, good things and not so good things. Things he aces, things he needs to try again. For instance, Math blew up on him this semester, and his response was to abort the mission...completely. 9 Assignments incomplete as well as a handful of tests/quizzes in need of corrections and the ever dreaded, Parent Signature - eeeeee gads! This is often anxiety inducing as well, he knows he has to tell me but
he can't bear to tell me. I let him know the jig was up, I had an email from Mr.Math Teacher....the tears and disappointment spilled out of him, and night after night we have sat together in my room, pouring over PEMDAS and solving for Xes, N's and P's. I am hoping that I can connect for him the simple logic of: the more you do it the easier it gets? We shall see.
On the heels of such lousy news, Ayden surprised me completely! He announced he went out for Drama Club, and not just set design crew - a real part! wow! Auditioned and everything, which included singing dancing and reciting lines. He was very proud of himself, and I was over the moon that he gave it a shot! He would have to wait out the weekend before learning, that alas he will not be the star of the stage for this upcoming production. He was so let down, but I rallied him! Hey, not everyone has it in them to even Go for it! That took way more courage then you know. That made him feel a tad better. Just a tad.
But what really, really cheered him up? Going and picking out with his very careful eye, the most perfect gift for the most perfect lady. His crush of all crushes, "the little girl who makes hearts appear in the air like when Charlie Brown looks at the redhead girl, mom!" Crush. A beautiful silver pendant with her initial set in crystals, which Ayden also noted is the same letter for his name too :) He came up with this all on his own! He also advised me that he would need to put some Hershey kisses in the gift bag too! I added a few rolo's for good measure. They are only 11 - I have to think what I would think if a boy wanted to give our daughters kisses. Chocolate or otherwise hahahaha <3 He came home yesterday to tell me, She jumped up and down and all her friends were like "awwwwwwwwwwwwww! that's so sweeeet!".
The grin, covering his whole face, from his crinkly eyes to the huge dimples in his cheeks said it all. And as if that wasn't enough, he shoots a phone number from his pocket for a buddy that wants him to come spend the night and play Lego Marvel for 360. So, mr.anti social is now making plans and taking numbers. Business as usual in 6th grade. All of which is subject to change next week. That's just how it goes.
Friday, December 20, 2013
Thursday, December 12, 2013
THAT MOMENT WHEN.....
You get to see the look on the faces of 2 kids when you walk them in to the office so they can share a joke. The one where you are holding the door closed on a kid so he can't get in. Hahahhaaa, look at him try pulling and pulling, and a few fist pounds to the door too, atta boy! I was driving by, just not in the loop. I was coming from the back lot and so it took a moment to turn around and park - I grabbed for the door and the nice little lads opened it for me!
"Oh! So it works!?!" I proclaimed.
- "huhhhh? yeh"
"It's not stuck or locked?" I quiz.
-crickets
"So you were holding it closed? Why?"
"uhh..ohhh...it was just a joke....."
"Oh! Good, here lets go let the office know about your door jokes! Come on guys, they'll love it!"
Long story short, they let the office in on their joke. I let the office in on the fact the kids did NOT happen to know I was driving by, and I also added that generally in a joke - everybody laughs. "Did Ayden look like he thought it was funny? Are you guys such good buds that you joke around like that? Was he laughing? No No and No? Welp! That's not a joke then...got me."
As I left the office, one of the kids followed me and apologized - I genuinely thanked him and told him "I am a mom and let me assure you - if that was you on the other side of that door, I would have stopped my car for you too. Not sure if that matters to him but he even held the door for me again :) And away I went. Ehron dangling from me like jewelry. Off to pay my water bill and get home for the other kids. We have a band concert tonight! I have things To Doooo. Ayden, blissfully unaware was staying after for a Drama club meeting. I have told him always, (all of my children) I have your back buddy even when you can't see me. Especially when you can't see me. Today that promise rings loud and clear.
And you better believe I do NOT think those kids are Jerks, or Baaaad....I get it. Don't assume for one moment that the reason I stopped was because I am a Helicopter Mom, unwilling to let Ayden or any of my children out in the big bad world! Ohhhh, quite the very opposite in fact. Ayden would never do that kinda crap, but when I was his age? I might have. And probably did. Ok, Did. Not too many people stopped me from doing whatever I wanted, or caught me telling "Jokes" and I often did not care if they did.
30 years later nobody will ever judge me harder than I do myself. However, I have a whole lot of peace with that part of me these days. No matter the things I have done wrong, something I have done Right is right there in the actions of my children. My kids have hearts of gold. They are someone that would come up next to you if another child was being mean. They would eat lunch with you if you were sitting alone. I have never, of ALL the times I have been called to office, had to come address fighting or bad behavior. Despite me, I have done that right. My kids are already so much better than I was at that age, I can't hardly wait to see how else they will amaze me.
"Oh! So it works!?!" I proclaimed.
- "huhhhh? yeh"
"It's not stuck or locked?" I quiz.
-crickets
"So you were holding it closed? Why?"
"uhh..ohhh...it was just a joke....."
"Oh! Good, here lets go let the office know about your door jokes! Come on guys, they'll love it!"
Long story short, they let the office in on their joke. I let the office in on the fact the kids did NOT happen to know I was driving by, and I also added that generally in a joke - everybody laughs. "Did Ayden look like he thought it was funny? Are you guys such good buds that you joke around like that? Was he laughing? No No and No? Welp! That's not a joke then...got me."
As I left the office, one of the kids followed me and apologized - I genuinely thanked him and told him "I am a mom and let me assure you - if that was you on the other side of that door, I would have stopped my car for you too. Not sure if that matters to him but he even held the door for me again :) And away I went. Ehron dangling from me like jewelry. Off to pay my water bill and get home for the other kids. We have a band concert tonight! I have things To Doooo. Ayden, blissfully unaware was staying after for a Drama club meeting. I have told him always, (all of my children) I have your back buddy even when you can't see me. Especially when you can't see me. Today that promise rings loud and clear.
And you better believe I do NOT think those kids are Jerks, or Baaaad....I get it. Don't assume for one moment that the reason I stopped was because I am a Helicopter Mom, unwilling to let Ayden or any of my children out in the big bad world! Ohhhh, quite the very opposite in fact. Ayden would never do that kinda crap, but when I was his age? I might have. And probably did. Ok, Did. Not too many people stopped me from doing whatever I wanted, or caught me telling "Jokes" and I often did not care if they did.
30 years later nobody will ever judge me harder than I do myself. However, I have a whole lot of peace with that part of me these days. No matter the things I have done wrong, something I have done Right is right there in the actions of my children. My kids have hearts of gold. They are someone that would come up next to you if another child was being mean. They would eat lunch with you if you were sitting alone. I have never, of ALL the times I have been called to office, had to come address fighting or bad behavior. Despite me, I have done that right. My kids are already so much better than I was at that age, I can't hardly wait to see how else they will amaze me.
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